The Man's Guide To Love

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  1. if you want girls to want you, learn to play guitar. it shouldn’t be that simple but it is.

    Comment by bamafan — March 17, 2010 @ 12:48 am

  2. What are you givin away all our tricks for? lol

    Comment by delo — March 17, 2010 @ 2:44 am

  3. If you just want short-term fun, play up your success/money. If you’re looking for someone to marry, play down your finances so you know what she’s really interested in.

    Comment by DP — March 17, 2010 @ 2:50 am

  4. Before you marry a woman, take a long hard look at her mom and decide if you’d sleep with her… cuz you’re gonna be sleeping with her in 30 years or so if you get hitched.

    Comment by Harry Gregson — March 17, 2010 @ 11:30 pm

  5. You need to find a woman who’s the right amount of freaky for you. Not too much, not too little. You know what I mean.

    Comment by Father Ted — March 18, 2010 @ 4:47 pm

  6. You can judge a woman by how she judges a man. Her wants and needs are a window into her soul.

    Comment by DandyLion — March 20, 2010 @ 2:20 am

  7. i would never say it on camera or even to another bro, but when youre both mad and you can’t talk your way through an argument just give each other a hug until the anger stops. it could be five seconds, it could be five minutes, but you have to hold on until its done. also, never let your friends know you do this.

    Comment by SigmaPi — March 20, 2010 @ 9:28 pm

  8. If you wish you could love your woman more, then dude, it’s easy, here’s all you do: YOU LOVE HER MORE. Sounds stupid, but it works! Women (and men) just want to be loved, and if you show them some love (even if you don’t feel it right now), they’re happier, and if they’re happier, they’re more fun to be around, and presto: you love them more. Try it!

    Comment by Presto — March 22, 2010 @ 12:29 am

  9. If you want to avoid blow-ups, you have to stop worrying about what’s fair and instead look at whose need is stronger. If she really needs a romantic night out and just kind of want to watch the game, she wins. Go out. You’re both gonna be happier the next day.

    Comment by Probert24 — March 22, 2010 @ 1:30 am

  10. Don’t keep a gun in the house. And if you do keep a gun in the house don’t tell her where it is.

    Comment by dont date stalkers — March 24, 2010 @ 12:57 am

  11. If marriages run on fuel then being best friends will get you five years and being in love will probably get you ten. But if you want to stay married for the duration you need a spark — some innate attraction that doesn’t fade when friendship and love flicker.

    Comment by Gary — April 3, 2010 @ 2:53 am

  12. Only stay with someone you actually like. This may seem obvious…until you wake up and realize you’ve invested two years of your life with someone whose only redeeming quality is that they will put up with your bullshit. if you don’t actually like the person you’re with, you owe it to everyone in the world to get out, because Dave, you are incredibly depressing to be around.

    Comment by Kyle F. — April 16, 2010 @ 3:45 pm

  13. “Don’t look for the one you think you are lucky to have but find the one that thinks she is lucky to have you because that way you will have her eating out of your hands in no time “

    Comment by Michael Gill — April 22, 2010 @ 5:27 am

  14. Don’t read this if you only want confirmation of preconceived notions that all is wonderful in the US. If you think you can take questioning notions, then read on.

    The US has the highest divorce rate in the world. It’s a disaster. Broken homes, leading to broken kids. The highest mental illness rates in the world. Kids that can’t think that are supposed to compete with sound and hard working, even brilliant, kids around the world? Here is the only nation with a declining life span. What is called ‘family’ anywhere worldwide, here is dismissively called the ‘extended family’. Men in malls and restaurants walk 3 feet behind the woman here. When she sleeps around then divorces you and takes half of what you have toiled for while she was getting manicures, you are treated as scum. The reason American women have such level of total disregard for their males? They don’t need your protection. Why not? The US faces zero realistic military threat. There is not going to be any foreign army rolling its tanks in here anytime soon, or ever – it’s no wonder women feel that they don’t really need men to protect them or even owe men any kind of basic respect. American women maintain disrespectful, materialistic stance towards men and are famous worldwide for this. No right minded person who has been anywhere would marry one. Sorry, but your entire site here is facing a total cultural challenge, you are trying to romance fe-men with lipstick on them.

    Wanna try to wake up from this? Japan has 2% divorce rate. That’s right. Think it’s an anomaly? It’s not. The rest of the planet is comparable to that. The women are very respectful and do not spit on their men. Or make ‘innocent toilet lid is up ha-ha jokes’ about men. Except the more ‘Americanized’ nations where there too it is turning into nations of broken homes, single moms that are married to corporations. And no, the women are not beaten. Go to other countries and you may experience the amazing kindness and feeling of being a man who is valued when you go outside of this culture. Places where you meet real women instead of fe-men. For fun check out youtube for the video called ‘amerika’ by rammstein, it summarizes some of the cultural nonsense.

    Comment by Charles — April 22, 2010 @ 8:59 pm

  15. Don’t get so wasted that if you sneak out in the night you end up leaving your phone and your pants … also always carry a tranquilizer gun. just in cases.

    Comment by jabromy — April 23, 2010 @ 8:09 pm

  16. Don’t change who you are in order to appeal to certain women.

    Comment by Jonathan Conway — April 23, 2010 @ 9:56 pm

  17. As cliché as it is, be yourself and be true to yourself. Also, take every piece of advice with a grain of salt; what works for some may not work for you, and what works for you may not work for others.

    Comment by Simon — April 26, 2010 @ 4:55 pm

  18. My advice is to figure out what is going on with you, before you get into anything serious and hurt someone. This comparison sounds kind of sterile, but would you sign the dotted lines and buy a business from an owner that didn’t keep proper fiscal records, had no clue where its successes and failures were, didn’t care to improve, and was ready to jump ship?

    It’s important to actually stop and think about who you are, what you want, what is important to you, why it is, and how you should find it. Being honest and genuine with yourself and treating yourself kindly makes it a lot easier to do the same thing to others. Trust the way you feel! It only comes with practice.

    Try not to get mad too often, and learn how and when to apologize properly, how to listen well, and how to say what you really mean, without making someone feel like garbage.

    Yeah it’s a lot of work, but afterward, life is just so much better!

    Thanks, guys.

    Comment by Kari C — May 16, 2010 @ 1:26 pm

  19. When we are curious, compassionate, confident, creative, courageous, and connected, love is what we are, and those we are connected with will feel loved in our presence. The key to being loved is to love others.

    Comment by William Harryman — July 23, 2010 @ 6:29 pm

  20. Never think for someone.

    Everybody has their own mind, and their own personality. To think for someone is to imply your own though process and method upon them, ultimately this usually results in the idea of what you seek to be the exact opposite.

    Have you ever signed up for a event, or participated a party? Usually most people go through a period of talking themselves out of it, but then when it finally comes around and their decision is to not back out, it usually is totally the exact opposite of what they had expected.

    Your consciousness is focused within your mind. However, your subconsciousness will always lie hidden, and it will always attempt to protect you, as a defense, you talk yourself out of possible humiliation (rejection), or hurt (out of doing something reckless.) But once you learn to control yourself, and be you, knowing your limits for things and learning possibilities are always seemless, your choice of action becomes much more smoother.

    Comment by Brandon — October 26, 2010 @ 1:34 am

  21. I think this project is novel, simple, and real, and I give props to the creators for offering up a forum for men to speak openly and honestly about that thing we all call love. It’s refreshing to experience, and I’m enjoying all the funny, practical, and insightful things these men have to say.

    I get that the point of this website is advice – man to man – but from a woman’s perspective, and my current thoughts on love and relationships, consider this fellas: Never underestimate being both interested and interesting. You can’t get too comfortable regardless of how long you’ve been with someone.

    Comment by Karina — November 14, 2010 @ 1:27 am

  22. Don’t be so blind to your own faults. So that when you meet the right woman and she tells you that you need to grow up in some areas, you don’t let pride kick and take control. Be willing to make a change in yourself for the growth of the relationship, and for yourself.

    Comment by Matt — December 8, 2010 @ 10:47 pm

  23. To find a woman, just be yourself! To look for a woman, be a movie star with a good acting!

    Comment by Zarry Hendrik — December 15, 2010 @ 11:52 am

  24. If your eyes are caught looking at her breasts, hide behind your mouth by saying, “The shape of your chest a little weird.”

    Comment by Zarry Hendrik — December 15, 2010 @ 11:54 am

  25. Chance with her may not be repeated. So do something crazy for her! Doing something good is only effective when you’re with her friends.

    Comment by Zarry Hendrik — December 15, 2010 @ 11:58 am

  26. Never ever ever discuss important relationship matters through email, text messages, or IM’s… Unless you really do want to end it. There is way too much that can be misread and judged accordingly through the bluntness of the written word. Hold the important stuff for the “in person” experience. Face to face discussions are absolutely imperative in order to convey all the subtle nuances and tonal ranges that you get with the feeling and touch and breath and eye contact that takes place in communication with the woman you love.

    Comment by bob — January 6, 2011 @ 5:16 pm

  27. Relationships are like cars: You can’t just get in a car and expect it to run forever. You have to take care of your car, fill it up with gas, change the oil, change the tires, do preventative maintenance. When you take care of your car, it will go the distance. Same thing with your relationships, you have to take care of them: surprise her (or him!), compliment her, take her on a date for the first time AGAIN, ask her how she’s feeling, tell her she’s sexy, DO THINGS for her. Take care of your relationship and it will go the distance.

    Comment by Garrett W — January 20, 2011 @ 9:18 pm

  28. I am very bad at giving advise when it comes to relationship. Nevertheless I would say: “Never hesitate to take risks for a girl you truely love even if the whole world think your are wrong, because there is no right or wrong in love. If you don’t follow your heart you will live the rest of life with regrets and there is nothing worse.”

    Comment by Julio — April 7, 2011 @ 2:03 am

  29. The greatest adventure in life is love.

    Our gift is that we cannot see it, nor make sense of it, to confine it with rules. It is an opportunity to explore uncharted territory and share what is possible (like this site – kudos to the collector!). By releasing control over your experience with others, and the suffering connected to past experiences, you allow the seed of love within you to grow. You decide your happiness. You choose your path.

    Give yourself permission to love without limits and enjoy where the adventure takes you!

    Comment by Dinesh — April 14, 2011 @ 3:07 pm

  30. Make the effort to be friends with all of her friends. If her friends don’t like you then she’s always going to have them buzzing in her ear behind your back.

    Save sex till marriage. Too often it does nothing but complicate things and if the relationship doesn’t work out you have that extra baggage to carry around. Plus, you know, diseases.

    Write her letters. I know that sounds really cheesy but it will drive her crazy and she’ll be chomping at the bit to write you some back. Plus you need to save those letters. Reading the words of a woman in love with you will encourage you at your lowest.

    Take time to learn little things that she likes. Remembering that she loves only White Chocolate Moca’s from Starbucks or that she loves scrapbooks will work wonders.

    Comment by JT — April 18, 2011 @ 10:13 am

  31. Never forget this about American Women. Women consider Men of Value by his “Confidence”. But they are heavily influenced by materialistic things. No Matter how much confidence you may have, many women will still move on from you when they believe that you can’t provide for them whatever that they desire from you. Treat Women with the same level of “Diminishing Returns As They Do Men”. Basically Any Level Of Flaw Is Grounds For You To Question Her, Break Up With Her, And Get Another Woman Who has more value. Her knowing that “She can and will be replaced sooner or later keeps her in a more humble mindset. Be Sure You Really Have The Mental Mind To Pull This Off Cause You Can Lose Her. Finally, If you keep her Smiling, Having fun, Excited About Something, And Laughing, Limit Phone Time, Stay Random, and Give Her Variety, Also When You Do Get her Clothes Off(In The Words of A 40yr old female I know) MAKE CREAM PIE. Your Woman Will Be So Addicted to you She She will Beg You, Plead With You,She Will Lose Her Morals and do all sorts of things Women say they will never do. As Long As She “Thinks” You Are Faithful.
    Remember 1.Smiling 2. Have Fun 3.Keep Her Excited About Something 4.Make Her Laugh 5.Make Cream Pie= A Crazily Addicted Woman

    Nuff Said,

    Comment by Joseph — April 28, 2011 @ 9:32 am

  32. I know this sounds shallow, but hear me out: friends with benefits is your ultimate goal in love. If you’re able to marry your best friend and have that person accept all of the good and the bad of you, and they STILL climb into bed with you and want you? You’ve got it made guys.

    But don’t ever marry a woman until you’ve argued with her and you’ve lived with her for six months. If neither of you take the time to fix the argument, then you don’t love each other enough, and if you can live with someone and see them 24/7 and still love them? Its meant to be.

    And guys, everyone says this, but its true–just be yourself. I still sometimes struggle with this because my mind is always in the gutter and people don’t always take kindly to dirty jokes, but if you suppress part of yourself, you’ll never find the girl that loves you entirely.

    Comment by Damien — April 28, 2011 @ 9:44 am

  33. All women are crazy. It’s true. The key to finding the right woman is finding one just crazy enough for you.

    Comment by Justin in Hawaii — April 28, 2011 @ 3:34 pm

  34. I have learned to simply be open to the idea that your partner is different than you are. They are not going to react the same way that you will to things. Chances are if you are more likely to think in the broader spectrum, then they are likely not to. I think as a man it has been my job to be that stabilizing factor in the relationship. Since my partner has a high stress life, and plenty of drama to go around I react differently than she would. Those types of things that would never get to me, seem to be game changers for her. It makes things so much easier when I am given the chance to have at least a couple minutes to think about the situation we have come into. Since she is over dramatic I tend to be calm and collective. Basically the relationship has to be similar to a ying yang. If one is more than likely to be the one who helps resolve the others problems, they should also be able to depend on their mate to do the same when those unlikely problems are on the other side of the relationship. Tolerance, patience, having an open mind, and simply not caring what others outside of the relationship say, think or do will push you into a new way of relating to one another. If you have the us vs. the world attitude and use your unity, it will benefit both of you and eventually those around you will see that you are a working relationship for a reason.

    Comment by chris smith — April 28, 2011 @ 3:37 pm

  35. Just love the woman. That’s it! Just love the woman!

    Comment by Gilbert — April 28, 2011 @ 3:39 pm

  36. When you find true love you will know it within the first month. Your eyes will be on this one woman and no other, your thoughts will be swamped with her. The conversations will be endless and filled with all emotions. Dont hold in your emotions fellas they like that. Be honest and true to yourself and you will always be honest and true to her. My lady is all that….A LADY! She is open and honest and loving and has 5 kids of her own to fit into my 2 kids. We try making time for us to just sit and laugh or have alone time but sometimes its tuff. I love her with all that I am and I try to show her everyday how much she means to me. Her love saved me from going into exile within my own self for all of eternity. I was done with the whole dating thing and then she came along. WOW what a feeling she gave me just talking through email and eventually on the phone. We didnt want to hang up. When I first met her face to face she took my breath away and still manages to on a daily basis. I dont care if its sweatpants day or her normal everyday clothes she is beautiful inside and out and still makes me feel good to have such a beautiful woman who loves me.

    Comment by Larry Wilson — April 28, 2011 @ 4:58 pm

  37. …a perfect date is when you’re with “the” perfect date.

    Comment by uno supremo — April 28, 2011 @ 7:11 pm

  38. Wow guys thanks for sharing your words of wisdom, it’s so nice to see there are some guys out there who actually understand and appreciate women. Hopefully one day I might find one just like you :-) xx

    Comment by claudia35 — April 29, 2011 @ 5:00 pm

  39. My advice to men is don’t lie. Always be honest. There is a thing called women’s intuition and its a real thing. We know when you’re lying anyway. Plus if you do something horrible you owe it to her, and you regain some of that dignity by being honest. If you lie, and its found out you look 100 times worse than before, and we will lose all respect in you.

    Comment by Alicia — April 29, 2011 @ 10:22 pm

  40. Relationships is like hiring someone. If there’s something that whispers no, it’s likely to expand until it pops. So, when in doubt – don’t.

    Comment by Thomas J. — April 30, 2011 @ 4:21 am

  41. In order to experience true love, love must be present or felt within before it is sought from out.–Melvin Davis

    Comment by Melvin Davis — May 1, 2011 @ 8:45 pm

  42. Once you’re in a serious relationship, all the other girls have AIDS. Don’t even think about playing around.

    Comment by Roy Oliver — May 2, 2011 @ 9:58 am

  43. It doesn’t matter how old she gets. She will always be a baby. That child constantly needs to know that you love her regardless of how busy you are or the tough achievements you are striving to obtain.

    Comment by Roy Oliver — May 2, 2011 @ 10:02 am

  44. my advice would be, just to be yourself and LISTEN, just remember that you can and will always talk too much but there is no way that you can ever listen too much.

    Comment by Austin — June 24, 2011 @ 1:06 am

  45. If you want to get a girl. Learn to play the guitar. Trust me. All girls, love a guy who can write a song for them. Don’t be a dick. Don’t mess around with them. If you’re going to get this girl, be a quality guy. Just be who you are. If she doesn’t like who you really are, she’s not worth it. Don’t always listen to your guy friends immediately, listen to her side too. It’s the little things that make a girl happy. And look, if the girl backs away from you when you’re getting too close. Don’t keep pressing yourself to her. Just give her some space. All my friends who try to get with a girl by getting physical with them too quickly always end up losing the girl. So just remember the three C’s. Confidence, Charismatic, Chivalrous.

    Comment by Liam — August 5, 2011 @ 11:45 am

  46. SHE’S AWESOME but you’re not feeling it? You may be in a relationship with a great girl, the perfect girl but you’re just not feeling it. There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s ok not to be ready for a relationship. You’re just not ready.

    One day it’ll hit you and you’ll KNOW you’re ready without a doubt. Don’t drag out a relationship when you feel it’s not right. It’s not good for you or the girl. It’s tough to end things. “A man’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he is willing to have.”


    Comment by Radio Wright — October 14, 2011 @ 5:47 pm

  47. Do worry about what the other one does when it comes to chores. Focus on getting more then your fair share of things done and then always give the other one thanks for what they have contributed to the relationship. Everyone of us is trying to get through life the best way they can and we all need someone to standby us no matter what. Also, keep your money in one pot. Your’s and their’s, make large financial dicisions together and always give thanks as a couple for what you have. Treat life as if you can never spend enough time together and don’t take seperate vacations. You are either together as a team (couple) or your not, but it is still good to have your own interests. This is coming from someone that has been married 34 years and together for 37. It all takes time. Stick it out, it only gets better.

    Comment by Michael — November 11, 2011 @ 2:39 pm

  48. gran sitio me encanta toda la información buena aquí

    Comment by tragaperras — December 2, 2011 @ 7:03 am

  49. Deserve what you want.

    Comment by Justin — December 14, 2011 @ 1:55 pm

  50. Don’t try to find someone who loves you, try to find someone who you can love… someone that wants to receive your love. Even if this is kinda hard is more manageable than trying to make someone love you (the harder you try, the more you fail).

    Oh, and when a person likes another person and that person doesn’t like them back, the person who does the liking is always a stalker! :D

    Comment by Teo — April 15, 2013 @ 4:52 pm

  51. Study to joke well, those smile at her face is a half of life hapinesses, I think…

    Comment by Paul — June 26, 2013 @ 8:02 am

  52. You need to joke well. You can see your job done by looking at her smilin’ face, luv it feeling of little happiness:)

    Comment by Paul — June 26, 2013 @ 9:52 am

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